18 July 2015

[Ramadhan Series] Lebaran Bersama Keluarga... di Taiwan ?

Pertama kalinya merasakan lebaran di Taiwan adalah tahun ini. Tahun dimana aku dan suami merayakan bersama, berdua. Tanpa orang tua, adik adik, dan keluarga besar. Apa daya namanya juga merantau di negeri orang, dimana lebaran tidak masuk katagori libur nasional. Agama apapun tak ada libur nya di Taiwan. Ingin sekali rasanya pulang ke Indonesia dan menikmati mudik ke rumah nenek bersama ibu bapak dan adik adik.

Sejak sebelum lebaran, kami sudah memberitahukan ke orang tua kami bahwa kami tak bisa pulang karena mas harus bekerja selepas shalat Idul Fitri. Iya benar sekali, hari Jumat lalu, kami shalat Idul Fitri di lapangan basket NCTU Hsinchu City Taiwan, dan pukul 8.30 suamiku berangkat ke kantor. Sedih sih ditinggal ke kantor tapi apa daya. Aku hanya bisa berharap dan merajuk supaya dia meminta ijin kepada bos nya untuk cuti setengah hari dan tidak kembali ke kantor pasca shalat jumat.

Awalnya orang tua ku baik baik saja kukabari kalau kami tidak bisa mudik. Bapak bahkan mengatakan kepadaku untuk bersabar karena masih berjuang di negeri orang. Tidak pulang tidak apa-apa. Toh saat Chinese New Year bisa pulang walaupun tahun depan. Tapi, saat hari H mudik lebaran tiba, ibuku menangis saar aku telepon dari Taiwan dan melihat wajahku via video call ke hape adikku. Bahkan ibu tidak mau melihatku saat itu. Hanya mau telepon biasa tanpa video. Sedih bukan main melihat orang tua ku menangis. Tapi, bisa dibilang wajar karena ini pertama kalinya aku tidak lebaran bersama ibu bapak dan adik adik, serta tidak ikut mudik sekeluarga ke Malang dan Solo, rumah nenek-nenek ku.


Sedih tidak bisa mudik ke Indonesia bukan berarti kami tidak bisa bersilaturahim ke keluarga. Bisa dibilang kami punya keluarga di Taiwan. Istilahnya sih mahasiswa kadaluwarsa hahaha Cukup banyak mahasiswa ataupun pekerja profesional seperti suami ku yang tidak pulang ke Indonesia saat lebaran begini dan kami merasakan hal yang sama. Seusai shalat Idul Fitri, ditinggal suami ngantor atau ngelab karena bos atauun prof mereka tidak tahu kalau hari Jumat lalu kami merayakan Hari Raya Idul Fitri. Jadi, ada dua orang teman yang usai shalat Idul Fitri main ke rumahku. Niat awalnya sih cuma sekadar berkunjung untuk melihat kamar yang aku dan suami ku sewa selama setahun ini karena salah seorang temanku (Mbak Miftah) sedang hamil dan ingin pindah apartemen bersama suaminya (Mas Hakim) yang saat itu sedang ngelab dan tidak bisa ikut. Dan seorang kawan lainnya (Mbak Eka) sudah memiliki 2 orang anak (Aqila dan Fayat) dan suami nya (Mas Prima) bekerja di perusahaan yang lokasinya persis di sebelah kantor suamiku, juga ikut datang. Memang dari dulu ingin main ke tempatku tapi selalu saja tidak sempat. Dan ini adalah waktu yang tepat. Suaminya diajak karena kebetulan bisa cuti.

Yang biasanya kamar sepi, suara cuma dari TV, ataupun kalau aku dan suami ngobrol saja, sekarang jadi ramai. haha Kamar berantakan langsung dibersihkan karena awalnya tidak ada niatan sama sekali mau berkunjung ke rumahku. Tapi, Alhamdulillah Mbak Miftah bilang kalau kamarnya rapi. ^__^

Ngobrol santai sampai sana sini mulai dari perkara rumah, hidup di Taiwan, sampai kapan pulang ke Indonesia jadi topik yang nyaman. Lebih Alhamdulillah lagi suamiku dapat ijin cuti setengah hari sehingga bisa pulang ke rumah pasca jumatan. Aqila dan fayat pun senang bermain di rumahku sampai akhirnya ketiduran karena capek bermain, Ibunya ikut-ikut tidur saat para suami jumatan. haha

Sekitar pukul 5 sore, semuanya pulang karena malamnya kami akan bergantian ke rumah Mbak Eka dan Mas Prima. Mereka bilang ada es buah. Lumayan juga nih. Sarapan opor pasca shalat idul fitri di kampus, siangnya ada ayam dibawain pasca jumatan, malamnya es buah di rumah teman. Luar biasa Alhamdulillah nikmat Allah mana yang kmu dustakan, intan? ^^

Walaupun keluarga jauh di sana di Indonesia dan nangis-nangis sampe mewek ga bisa pulang, tapi Alhamdulillah kami punya keluarga di Taiwan yang bisa membantu kami sedikit melupakan kesedihan.

Lebaran bukan untuk bersedih tapi untuk berbahagia karena Allah sudah memberikan rahmat yang luar biasa besar untuk kami sehingga kami masih bisa bertemu Idul Fitri tahun ini, dan bersilaturahmi dengan saudara seperantauan di Taiwan.

Tidak hanya saudara dari Indonesia, tapi juga dari negara lain. Karena di hari Minggu, ada acara Halal Bihalal di Restoran Taj India milik seorang Muslim Pakistan. Mereka membuat acara perkenalan tentang Islam ke pelanggan dan meminta mahasiswa muslim di Taipei (NTUST khususnya) untuk membantu jadi panitia.

Alhamdulillah acara lancar. Dimulai dari teman baik kami, Chung Yen (Alif) menjadi MC hari itu, lalu Fauzan membaca Al-Qur'an, Rara yang menjelaskan tentang pakaian yang dipakai Muslim di seluruh dunia termasuk hijab, dan juga ketupat. Plus workshop cara memakai jilbab dan membuat ketupat dari pita tentu saja. Lalu diakhiri dengan senandung Shalawat Nabi dari teman-teman cowok dan lagu Bang Toyib (candaan di lingkungan kami bagi yang tidak pulang lebaran, tapi orang Taiwan tidak tau maknanya haha)


Lebaran ini berkesan. Pertama kali nya lebaran bersama suami, tapi tidak di rumah bersama orang tua. Lebaran bersama teman-teman di Taiwan dan membantu menjelaskan tentang Islam ke pelanggan restoran India di Taipei.

Subhanallah Maha Suci Allah Sang Pemberi Nikmat dan Karunia

Minal Aidzin Wal Faidzin kami (Intan dan Putu) ucapkan kepada seluruh keluarga dan sahabat dimanapun berada.
Mohon maaf lahir batin atas salah kata dan perbuatan yang disengaja maupun tidak sengaja.
Semoga ibadah kita semua selama Ramadhan diijabah oleh Allah dan diberi kesempatan untuk menjadi pribadi lebih baik serta siap menjalani kehidupan pasca Ramadhan.
Semoga kita semua diberikan kesempatan lahir dan batin untuk bertemu Ramadhan tahun depan.
Amiinnn...

Jazakallahu Khairan k\Katsiran.

30 June 2015

[Ramadhan Series] Day 13 : Too Lazy.. Summer Time or what?


Summer Holiday... many will think of it as it's time for holiday... go to the beach or places never been there before, and do some fun in the sun. But, this summer is Ramadhan for me as a muslim. And I can't go to places because it's too hot outside in Taiwan, not only because of the sun but also humidity. Can't bear too long outside. So, I just be at home this week. Especially when I got injuries in my legs several days ago, seems hard for me to go around.

My daily activities in this holiday is...NONE.

After suhoor and pray shubuh, I slept all day long until Dhuhr. I woke up only when my husband was getting ready for work. Then I slept again.

After woke up, I just lazy around on my bed and open YouTube. Find some interesting videos or documentaries ( I don't really like to watch movies nowadays ) and just be there until my head hurts. Yes sometimes I've had a headache due too long inside and didn't get any sun. It's real.

And then... I turned on my laptop and start browsing things, open my social media accounts, reading articles, while watching Fox Crime on TV. Until... it's time to get ready for iftar.

But, because I was too lazy... I didn't cook. I just asked my husband "Where will we eat for dinner?" and that's it. I waited for him to go back home and pick me up to a restaurant, or sometimes he just brought something home for dinner.

This week... that's all I can do. I really don't know what's going on...

Is it because of I'm fasting? not really...because week before I'm still productive and could finish all my assignments on time.

Is it because of I slept late and woke up too late also? yeah maybe... but if I woke up late doesn't mean I will not going to do my jobs done.

Is it because I think I didn't have any things to do? not really... because even I already finished this semester, I still have a lot to dos, which are my businesses and several other things.

So, what? hmmm... I don't know.

But this laziness affects me a lot...

I knew I have things to do, and until today, most of them are untouched.
I stopped journalling, which is usually the most fun thing to do in a day.
I became lazy to practice Sunnah during the day, like recite Al-Qur'an or even watch videos for Islamic practices.
I stopped doing my research, and it's making me insane because I have to do it soon.
and many other negative things...

Usually when laziness came, I just packed my bag and go to Starbucks. But, now I can't do that because I'm fasting.

I have to change!
I have to do something!
I can't lazy around and do nothing!

But, I don't know where to start... I don't know what's the first thing to do.

I have to think first... If I had something came up, I will write it down in here. Maybe it can help people like me to get away with laziness.

25 June 2015

[Ramadhan Series] Day 8 : Your God is not in Taiwan

That sentence came out from one of my Taiwanese friend. I was shocked. Totally shocked. I was speechless that she said something like that. Not once, not twice, but three times in a day on different occasions.

Me and my friends had a beautiful summer day and we had a lot of things happened. One of our friends was having her birthday and we will try Hijab. But before we celebrate her birthday, my Taiwanese friends were having a BBQ outside school. I was not invited. I understand because they knew I'm fasting this month. But even if I'm not fasting, I will not going to be invited as well because they had pork for BBQ. So, after they finished, they went to school and we got ready to celebrate our friend's birthday.

In the birthday celebration, they brought the pork and beef BBQ for one of our friends who didn't come along with them. Me and Riza (my junior in ITS, also form Indonesia and Muslim) don't eat pork and not eat anything that afternoon because we're fasting. But, suddenly one of my friend (the naughtiest one) told me something like this...
"Hei Intan..Riza.. you have to eat this pork! It's delicious. You know, your God is not in Taiwan. Your God is in Indonesia. He will not know you eat this!"
I was totally shocked... I didn't give any explanation. I was just speechless... and Riza, he also speechless. He just laughed.

I knew she was just kidding. But, I did really shocked of what she told me.

Then, my other friend asked me about Islam. Why we did fasting, how we pray, and why we had to pray to Mecca (she said Arab, not Mecca). After I explained all of those things... my naughtiest friend said it's incredible for Muslims to do fasting in Ramadhan from before sunrise to sunset. Then, she said again...
"You know... you don't have to do fasting in Taiwan. You can eat this cheese cake from her birthday. Your God is not here, Intan."
My second attack. I was totally shocked again. I couldn't believe she said something like that again.

and... I just didn't respond what she said.

So, after that... we were heading to lab because some of us want to try Hijab like me. I was very happy about it so I brought all of my beautiful Hijabs to school days before.

Funny things happen in my lab and my naughtiest friend ever said to me that I have no hair and that's why I covered it up with my Hijab, haha I always said to her that I have hair and she didn't believe it/ Some people also. That's why this day I showed to them my hair ( no boys there). They were just shocked to see my hair. hahahaha

But when my naughtiest friend saw my hair...she said..
"Intan...it's so beautiful. I want hair like you. You don't need to use Hijab. You are beautiful without Hijab. Your God is not here."
And this time...I counter-attacked.

I said to her that
"My God is everywhere. He can see everything I did wherever and whenever the situation is. I will always use this Hijab and do fasting and not eating pork. "
 She just laugh and said "Okay...okay..."

I knew all of these things are actually jokes. She didn't believe in God, that's why she said something like that. If she believe in particular religion, she will know that God is everywhere, no matter what religion she believe. Unfortunately, that's not the case.

She din't believe in God and any kind of religions, just like many Taiwanese. They went to temple, but not believe in particular religion. I don't know how to explain that.

Within this experience, I realized that they don't have any understanding about God. It is proven in another day when my friend asked me about Satan or Shaitaan.

Of course it seems weird for us who live and grown up in the religious environment, where believe in God is necessary, and meet people who didn't believe that God is exist. So, what we need to do if we got this kind of experience?

I can say... try the best to explain about Allah and Islam to them, a little by little. Don't try to give them all information in one occasion. It will make them "can't believe it". Try to explain based on their curiosity in one occasion to another. But, don't push to hard.

Da'wah is not only about in front of many people all at once. But, in front of one of your non-muslim friends is also a da'wah, isn't it?

Wish what we did is what Allah stated in Al-Qur'an.
Allah knows the best.
Allah knows every little intention in human's heart.

Jazakallahu Khairan Katsiran.


22 June 2015

[Ramadhan Series] Day 6 : Longest Day Time in Taiwan during Ramadhan is a Good Day

Today I got information from my Taiwanese friends that today is gonna be the longest day time on summer. And... it's on Ramadhan. I'm not sure how many minutes longer than usual but it feels like I'm going to have a hot summer day today. hahaha

But even it's not longest day time in Taiwan, I would definitely get one. Because today is the last day of one of my class and I had to present my final project in front the class. It's not like an usual presentation, it's different. I had a hard time to do it so I'm really nervous and afraid that I couldn't do it better.

Instead of making myself funny in front of the class, fortunately I can make it through. Alhamdulillah... what I've been think of all this time not realized. hehe I'm afraid Prof will ask us about the network but he just asked us about how we make the network because we used a huge amount of data, not like others in the class. Another miracle of Ramadhan for me from Allah.

What I've been realized all day after I reviewed today activities are... I did something hopefully useful for my friends on lab. InshaAllah.

When first I came at school, I met with my lab mates on lab and we talked for a bit about our friend's engagement surprise. And it came out to a topic of Ramadhan because one of them asked me to go for lunch together. I told her that I was fasting and can't eat during the day until sunset. She already knew about Ramadhan because she is familiar with Islam things, she said. haha But another friend of mine at that time, he didn't know anything about Ramadhan. So, I decided to explain to him about it.

He asked me why do you have to fast for 1 month? 

I answered to him that this month is the month of blessings and Allah stated that we have to fast in this month. There are many benefits for our body and mind actually.

We need fasting for our body to rest after a year eat many kinds of food and need to heal themselves from any kind of disease.

We need fasting for our mind and mental state because we have to be patient, cannot angry, and discipline throughout the day.

So, what time do you have to do fasting?

Start from before Fajr prayer ( I have to explain to him that we have to pray 5 times a day) around 3.30 AM until sunset around 6.45 PM.

Is it have to be that time?

No. it depends on the sun. Sometimes we will eat iftar at 7 PM if the day time is longer than before. And of course summer time is longest time to fast rather than in winter time.

Is Ramadhan always in June / July ?

No. Because Ramadhan is in Islamic Calendar which is similar with Chinese calendar, that depends on the moon. And every year, usually Ramadhan will be move 1 month earlier. Like for example in this year Ramadhan is in June and July, and next year will be in May - June.

After he got all of that information and understand...he said "Waow...It's so special."

I'm happy to hear that I can explain to him about Ramadhan, so that he will understand more about Islam and Muslims.

Another thing that interest me the most was when one of my friend (after class) joking around to my Indonesian labmates that she will make him angry because he is still fasting and I said to her that if she did that she will go to hell. haha it's just joking, but another friend of mine ask me about Hell.

She thought that Hell is always an American joke, like "go to hell" or something like that. And she also didn't believe anything about heaven and hell. SO, I decided to give her an explanation about this.

I asked her whether she knew Adam and Eve, and she didn't know. So, I started with... what happened when human is not yet known.

Allah created Shaitaan (I used term Satan to her because it's more familiar) and put them in Heaven. Then, Allah created human which are Adam and Eve, and He told shaitaan to worship them. But shaitaan said to Allah that they didn't want to because they think that they are better than human. So, shaitaan told Adam and Eve to eat a forbidden apple in heaven. That apple caused them banned from heaven by Allah, because they already told by Allah to not eat that apple, but they still ate that due to shaitaan's whisper. Allah then put shaitaan into Hell and Adam and Eve to earth. Shaitaan didn't like it and even they already successfully make Adam and Eve out of heaven, they still said to Allah that they will make Adam, Eve, and their descendants (which is us, human) to not pray to Allah and drag them to hell until the end of the day (doomsday) to be their friends on hell.

After I explained to her, she became sooo excited. She said to me that she never heard that story before. I felt a little bit shocked because it's a story that any religion had. Like christian, catholics, and jews...they had that story in their book. But, how come she didn't even know that story?

I just realized that it might because she doesn't have any religion. And...most of Taiwanese are like that. So, it makes sense that she and some others of my friends didn't know that story.

I'm happy that I can explain to my friends a little bit about Islam, from time to time. Not a whole in a day but a little bit a time. Because I know that they have to know Islam as general first, and if they want to know more, I will explain more. It's important for them to understand what Islam and how Islam in Muslims' life so that they can respect Muslims and doesn't have any misunderstanding about Islam because of wrong-sided media.

Wish that I can do more on this Ramadhan and do da'wah even more to my friends in Taiwan. InshaAllah.


21 June 2015

[Ramadhan Series] Day 5 : Learn How to be Productive at Work / School on Ramadhan

So, today I got a chance to join a webinar by ProductiveMuslim.com entitled Work Productive on Ramadhan. When I got an email from them that I can join this webinar for free, I got very excited because this is what I need the most.

Of course everybody know that we have to fasting in Ramadhan and some (or most) people thought that it will decrease our energy level and can't be productive, so then it's okay to be lazy around and not doing something productive. Unfortunately, non-muslims tend to relate Ramadhan with the laziness of muslims. we don't want to be related with lazy, right?

So, I want to give the summary of the webinar into this article and hope it can help you guys a lot in your daily basis on Ramadhan and get the most out of it.

There are three kinds of Muslims on Ramadhan :



1. The Career Focus

Muslims who focus on their career or school activity on Ramadhan, just like on other months. And not make the most out of Ramadhan. So, their ibadah is less than their work.

2. Ramadhan Focused

Muslims who focus on Ramadhan only. They focus on gaining relationship with Allah SWT. They didn't do their job like usual or go to school. Only ibadah on this month.

3. The Survivors
Muslims who can balancing between The Career Focus and Ramadhan Focus. So, they tend to do both in balancing time. But, mostly, not related with each other.

Which one do you think is you?

So, there is another term that ProductiveMuslim.com have, which is The Productive Muslim Workforce

In Islamic point of view, Work is inside Spirituality. Why?

Work is a means to our sustenance to help us fulfill our obligations and live a dignified life. As an example, Prophet Daud a.s. who was the richest man, he works then became rich, Rasulullah Muhammad SAW also an entrepreneur who works to fulfill his duty as the man in the family and live a dignified life.

Work is a testing ground for our Islamic manners and ethics.  We already knew how to be a great Muslims not only from Qur'an but also Hadist. But, we can't only 'know' that but we have to implement all of those manners and ethics. That's what one of the purpose of work. How we develop relationship with others, be discipline, etc.

Work is where we add value to humanity. We work to do something for the company, instead of building a product or managing something. All of that is because company want to make something that can be sold to people. That product is of course might be useful for others. So, working is one way to be useful to others.

The next question is... your work is a Job, Career, or Calling? 

Imam Al-Ghazali ever mentioned three types of people :
1. Distracted by the Dunya
2. Distracted by the Akhira
3. Dunya supports Akhira and Akhira supports Dunya

Indeed, I believe many people is one who distracted by the Dunya ( only works and live the life on eart and never think about life in akhira) or distracted by the Akhira (only ibadah and forget to work and be the man of the family). And I also believe that all Muslims in the world want to be in the 3rd category. But how Dunya supports Akhira and Akhira supports Dunya?

We have to know the meaning of Ibadah. Ibadah is not only Pray 5 times a day and sunnah prayer, recite Qur'an, become Hafidz / Hafidzah, help others in need, Hajj, always in mosque, etc. But working is also ibadah. Go to school is also ibadah. Provide foods and money for family is also ibadah. Be discipline at work is also ibadah.

So, with that state of mind... we can start to balance ibadah for Akhira and ibadah for Dunya.

There is a question that might be helped you understand... How is your work part of your spiritual development? think about this for a moment.

So, How Ramadhan boost your work productivity?

Basically you have to understand first that Ramadhan is the month of Barakah. The month of blessings that Allah gave to us. So, why don't we ask Allah to give blessings in our work or our opportunity or our business or anything ?

Ramadhan is actually can help us to learn to be focus on what we did. Maybe some people might not agree because they might think that because they didn't eat they will loose focus. But, that's not what Ramadhan meant. Before Ramadhan, we tend to do things that unnecessary in life like watch movies, listening to music, and eating. But during Ramadhan, we decrease all of that. Allah gives us more time to focus on our ibadah in our work and Ramadhan is the month to learn focus.

Discipline is another key. Being discipline is part of Islamic manners and ethics. Ramadhan also taught us to be discipline during our fasting. For example when we are fasting, we have to fast not only for our stomach but also heart. How to maintain our heart is part of the discipline. So, when you want to boost your productivity during ramadhan, being discipline is a key. Discipline to time management.

And how to make it as a routine... How to Build a Productivity Work / Life Routine During Ramadhan?

There are three keys to make productivity lifestyle as a routine, so that it's not only work on Ramadhan but also after Ramadhan.

1. Understand your Roles

We have roles in our life. For example for me, as a wife, daughter, sister, teacher, friend, muslimah, business woman, student, and worker. Too much? maybe not. Because everybody have their own roles in their life. So, what's yours? Understand your roles and how many time you spend for each of your roles, help you manage your daily productivity.

I will make myself as an example in this case.

So, we have to make priority based on roles but doesn't mean the first priority is closing other priority. Roles as a Muslimah is number one because it represents our relationship with Allah SWT. Then, because I already married, the second roles is as a wife, how I spend my time with my husband and my responsibility to him. Third role is as a daughter to my parents, am I already spent enough time with them, am I call them enough, or are they already happy with what I did. Fourth role is a sister, on how my relationship with my sisters and brother, is it need more time to be spent together with and we can be stronger as ever. Next role is as a friend, did I already have a good relationship with my friends, or do I have to have an iftar party for them in our house. Because I'm a student, I have to think about my research and how I spend my time for my research, is it already balanced with other roles. Become a business woman is a challenged because I didn't spent my full time on it, so I have to think again about the meaning in this business. And I also a worker, even it's just a part-time job I have to think about my discipline, did I already good at work or need improvement, is my boss ok with my job or not, and something like that.

So, you get what I meant in here? maybe you can start think first on your roles before you continue reading.

2. Set your Goals

After you understand your roles, you can start to set your goals for each roles. For example, as a Muslimah I want to set goals in this Ramadhan that I want to finish reading Qur'an and understand the meaning of Surah Al-Kahf. As a wife, I want to prepare iftar and sahoor everyday for my husband. As a student, I want to finish my research model this month.

Or you also can set goals based on three things, which are Spiritual Goals, Social Goals, and Physical Goals. These goals can help you stay focus and discipline throughout the month and get ready to continue set another goals when Ramadhan end.

3. Build a Routine

If you try to get your goals on daily basis, it means you build it as a routine. Don't be lazy because it will not going to help you come across your goals.

4. Review Daily

At the end of the day you should review daily on what you already did that day. Is there anything special? How's your life going on Ramadhan? Are you already follow on your routine?

With reviewing, you can see what improvement you already did and what need to be done tomorrow.

I understand that make goals as routine is not easy. I also ever experienced it and I need tools to help me with that. I've ever mentioned in many articles about how to be productive using planners. If you need that, you can download it for free in this link.

Or you also can use several apps for your phone if you don't like papers. Like for example Todoist, Evernote, etc. 

For your Ramadhan, I suggest you to use app called Ramadhan Legacy. It can help you track your daily ibadah routine on Ramadhan.

Okay... so... hope this summary of the webinar on ProductiveMuslim.com help you guys on your work productivity during Ramadhan. InshaAllah.

Wish we can get the most out of Ramadhan and Allah blesses us with Barakah on this month and after.

Jazakallahu Khairan Katsiran.